You’re probably thinking we are going to write about getting to know your spouse better. Well, that’s part of it. In actuality, the first part of understanding is to recognize that you and your spouse are different – and that’s okay. Men and women are designed differently and they are going to see things from different perspectives. Learn to appreciate that and value those differences. For example, in general men single-task and women are multi-taskers. When a wife stops expecting her husband to multi-task like she does; and a husband stops expecting his wife to focus on one thing at a time just like he does – understanding is starting to take place. Learning how to flow around your strengths and weaknesses, as men and women and your individual personalities, is key to better understanding. When you know your spouse “gets you,” then it is easier to be completely unashamed with them.